Freeze
Ever have pure, blind hatred for someone and no explanation why? Like, when you meet someone and right from JUMP you know they're corny and want nothing to do with them. Well, I've got that going with a couple of celebrities, three that top my list: Tyra Banks, Memphis Bleek and LL Cool J. For some reason they just rub me the WRONG way. You may have read where I refer to them as "wastes of space," or "wastes of life," or my personal favorite, "wastes of existence." Now I'm not saying they should die or be vanquished from the Earth, I just feel that when they're around, everyone else should disappear cuz their presence doesn't make things any better. And I'm not comin' at this blindly, I've got very good reasons for disliking each and every one of them. I'll even blog about it one day...Just not today.
Today's blog is about LL Cool J. We all know how much I HATE LL Cool J. Not hate, I ABHOR him (which is the same as hate, just so much more intense). But recently, something's changed. I LOVE his song with J. Lo, "Control Myself." And I love my new favorite song "Freeze," with Lyfe Jennings on the hook. LOVE IT!! So hearing these songs, I asked my brother to make me a copy of LL's new CD. It's H-O-T-T!! From beginning to end, the CD is FI-YA! Enough about that, though, we're gonna talk about "Freeze."
The concept of the song is basically LL saying to the woman he loves that he wants her to wait for him. Not just wait, freeze. "Don't change, don't leave, just freeze." He wants to freeze the love of his life until he's finished playing around. He doesn't want to hurt her by constantly cheating so he wants her to pause, like a VCR. Now at first I was kinda pissed about the song cuz I feel like that's all dudes want. Call it what you will, the Wifey Reserves (blog that got caputed by Corey), callin' the next one off the bench, whatever. I was SO MAD becsue I felt like it just wasn't fair cuz if a dude really said that to a chick, she'd actually wait for him. We all know how serious I am when it comes to empowering women, so I was ready to go OFF. But then I thought about it. It's something we ALL wish we could do. Take that perfect guy and put 'im up on a shelf until you're ready to stop actin' up and get it together. Call a shorty up a few years later when you're ready to settle down and have her be THE SAME way she was when she loved you unconditionally, way back when. It's true.
Looking back, I know there are dudes who wish I had frozen when they wanted me to. Go out, sow your wild oats and come back. I know because I hear it in conversations I've had with some exes ("I know when we were together, bl-bl-bluh" and "You sound so different,not like before"). Unfortunately for them, I changed immediately and moved on. But I digress. I can't say I have many people in my life I'd like to freeze, but there are quite a few I'd like to fast forward a bit, trust that. Either way, I can definitely relate. There are just some people you wanna hit the "pause" button on and have them be the same while you changed. And the change could be for better or worse. You can evolve into being the faithful guy your girlfriend needs you to be to be her husband or you can learn to be less clingy so your boyfriend will wife you up. Maybe tone down the cockiness a bit, maybe have a bit more of a backbone. Point is, we've all got that certain someone we want for ourselves but aren't quite ready to make the sacrifice to be in "that place" with our significant others.
Now since life is what it is, we all know that "freezing" our loved ones isn't humanly possible (save the lost art of chryogenics), so how do we get our loves to stick around for the long run? When in a relationship or even just dating someone, every decision we make either strengthens or destroys the bond that's been formed. Things are so precarious, people feel ike it's not worth it. Those that haven't ever been in love, of course. Those that have know it sucks and know how much it hurts but enjoy it SO MUCH, they put themselves out there to get hurt again, just to capture that feeling again of love at its peak. They say hindsight's always 20/20, but more often than not, it's short-sighted and WAY too late. With a world full of songs like "Where I Wanna Be" and "Through With Love" become anthems, we've just gotta wake up and enjoy the people we love the most.
I know this sounds like I've had a near-death experience, but be assured my life hasn't changed in any significant way, I've always looked at things like this. It's funny how much people can relate to a song so much, they immediately set out to change things in their lives. It works sometimes, but then "Ms. New Booty" comes on the radio and it's back to politics as usual. But back to the matter at hand, there's no magic wand we can wave to hold time at a standstill cuz time is what it is, it moves on with or without our knowledge or consent. The sun rises the next day and the Earth continues to spin. I wish I could freeze some people and on the flip side I wish I could freeze FOR some people, wait for them to stop actin' up (or come to their senses) but I know me. I could never stay the way I've been once I know seomthing needs to be changed. When something needs to be changed in me, it will. And then I'll be different. Hell, i don't even keep the same hairstyle from week to week, how can my perosnality stay the same? But sometimes I dislike being such a mercurial being. Yeah, it keeps people on their toes but it also causes much confusion. Maybe one day I'll settle down and find that one I decide to be with. But wouldn't life be great if we could ALL, just for a SECOND, just...Freeze?
Today's blog is about LL Cool J. We all know how much I HATE LL Cool J. Not hate, I ABHOR him (which is the same as hate, just so much more intense). But recently, something's changed. I LOVE his song with J. Lo, "Control Myself." And I love my new favorite song "Freeze," with Lyfe Jennings on the hook. LOVE IT!! So hearing these songs, I asked my brother to make me a copy of LL's new CD. It's H-O-T-T!! From beginning to end, the CD is FI-YA! Enough about that, though, we're gonna talk about "Freeze."
The concept of the song is basically LL saying to the woman he loves that he wants her to wait for him. Not just wait, freeze. "Don't change, don't leave, just freeze." He wants to freeze the love of his life until he's finished playing around. He doesn't want to hurt her by constantly cheating so he wants her to pause, like a VCR. Now at first I was kinda pissed about the song cuz I feel like that's all dudes want. Call it what you will, the Wifey Reserves (blog that got caputed by Corey), callin' the next one off the bench, whatever. I was SO MAD becsue I felt like it just wasn't fair cuz if a dude really said that to a chick, she'd actually wait for him. We all know how serious I am when it comes to empowering women, so I was ready to go OFF. But then I thought about it. It's something we ALL wish we could do. Take that perfect guy and put 'im up on a shelf until you're ready to stop actin' up and get it together. Call a shorty up a few years later when you're ready to settle down and have her be THE SAME way she was when she loved you unconditionally, way back when. It's true.
Looking back, I know there are dudes who wish I had frozen when they wanted me to. Go out, sow your wild oats and come back. I know because I hear it in conversations I've had with some exes ("I know when we were together, bl-bl-bluh" and "You sound so different,not like before"). Unfortunately for them, I changed immediately and moved on. But I digress. I can't say I have many people in my life I'd like to freeze, but there are quite a few I'd like to fast forward a bit, trust that. Either way, I can definitely relate. There are just some people you wanna hit the "pause" button on and have them be the same while you changed. And the change could be for better or worse. You can evolve into being the faithful guy your girlfriend needs you to be to be her husband or you can learn to be less clingy so your boyfriend will wife you up. Maybe tone down the cockiness a bit, maybe have a bit more of a backbone. Point is, we've all got that certain someone we want for ourselves but aren't quite ready to make the sacrifice to be in "that place" with our significant others.
Now since life is what it is, we all know that "freezing" our loved ones isn't humanly possible (save the lost art of chryogenics), so how do we get our loves to stick around for the long run? When in a relationship or even just dating someone, every decision we make either strengthens or destroys the bond that's been formed. Things are so precarious, people feel ike it's not worth it. Those that haven't ever been in love, of course. Those that have know it sucks and know how much it hurts but enjoy it SO MUCH, they put themselves out there to get hurt again, just to capture that feeling again of love at its peak. They say hindsight's always 20/20, but more often than not, it's short-sighted and WAY too late. With a world full of songs like "Where I Wanna Be" and "Through With Love" become anthems, we've just gotta wake up and enjoy the people we love the most.
I know this sounds like I've had a near-death experience, but be assured my life hasn't changed in any significant way, I've always looked at things like this. It's funny how much people can relate to a song so much, they immediately set out to change things in their lives. It works sometimes, but then "Ms. New Booty" comes on the radio and it's back to politics as usual. But back to the matter at hand, there's no magic wand we can wave to hold time at a standstill cuz time is what it is, it moves on with or without our knowledge or consent. The sun rises the next day and the Earth continues to spin. I wish I could freeze some people and on the flip side I wish I could freeze FOR some people, wait for them to stop actin' up (or come to their senses) but I know me. I could never stay the way I've been once I know seomthing needs to be changed. When something needs to be changed in me, it will. And then I'll be different. Hell, i don't even keep the same hairstyle from week to week, how can my perosnality stay the same? But sometimes I dislike being such a mercurial being. Yeah, it keeps people on their toes but it also causes much confusion. Maybe one day I'll settle down and find that one I decide to be with. But wouldn't life be great if we could ALL, just for a SECOND, just...Freeze?
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